3 Ways To Improve Your Day

None of us wake up with the intention of having a bad day.

Sometimes bad days result from unforeseen circumstances. You step in a puddle on the way to your car. Somebody cuts you off while driving. Then you realize you forgot your wallet--you can't buy lunch. You scrounge up some change to get something from the vending machine, and, you guessed it, your Hostess cake gets stuck! Let's top it off with the fact that it's Monday--and it's raining.

These annoying little drops coalesce throughout the day to form a rotten, festering pool of grumpiness.



Can you do anything to ward it off? 

Can you make this day better?

Because of personality differences, some of you will have to work harder than others to overcome the tendency to wallow in negativity; but all of us can do it.

Here are three quick ideas for how to make any day better:

#1 Do one nice thing for someone else.

Buy a cup of coffee for someone. Hold the door. Pay a compliment. Encourage someone. Think of something tangible you can do to make someone else's day better. 

Ephesians 4:32 Be kind one to another...

Why? Because they might be having a worse day than you!

"I'm not good at that sort of thing."

Probably because you never do it. Practice will make you better. Start now. 

Even if your kind act goes unnoticed or unappreciated, the process of thinking about others' needs will have been beneficial for you! 

The more you think about helping other people, the less time you'll have to think about how rough your day is.

#2 Don't whine and complain.

Complaining is the act of saying only negative things continuously. Somehow we think it will make us feel better.

Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth; [instead communicate] that which is good to the use of edifying [helping], that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

Negative things need to be said occasionally to solve a problem or address an issue. If your goal is to solve/fix the problem, it's not complaining--it's constructive criticism.

If you're goal is to distribute unhappiness and let everyone know how ornery you are, whining/complaining is the best way.



Insider Tip: Many people don't realize they complain all the time. Pay close attention to what you're saying and why you're saying it. You might be a whiner and not even know it.

#3 Process your problems.

It's important to think. It sets humans apart from other mammals. We contemplate and reason. As long as you have these tools in your repertoire, use them!

It's important for me to determine if my problems are inside or outside of my control.

If I have a bad day as a result of something I can control, I should make necessary changes to prevent those things from happening again. Simple. 

And trust me, I am the cause of many of my own problems!

If I am having a rough day as a result of things outside of my control, I have two choices. 

1) I can attempt to expand my influence so that I can gain control over those things by education or training. 

or

2) I can recognize and accept that some (many) things will NEVER be under my control. 

Conclusion:

I don't have a recipe for an easy life, but I believe these simple approaches can improve how you handle tough days. Your quality of life is less about your circumstances and more about how you respond to them. Now if I can just take my own advice!

Image credit:
Grumpy guy image from http://life.praveesh.com/how-to-complete-your-engineering-degree-land-a-job-in-an-it-company/04-21-10-some-friendly-reminders-for-the-frustrated-job-seeker/
List of nice things from http://www.operationnice.com/
Complaining person cartoon from http://goldeneaglescoaching.com/life/complaining-healthy/

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