Eating Scary for Breakfast

Yes, I am entirely aware that "scary" is an adjective, not a noun; thus, one cannot eat an adjective for breakfast. One can only eat a breakfast that is described by an adjective.

Now that the English instructors have been formally addressed, though probably not appeased, let's figure out why I purposefully chose a grammatically incorrect title.

Because "scary" describes things in our lives that are not necessarily bone-chilling, and they may not induce the fight-or-flight response. We're not necessarily running for our lives. 

But "scary" can be unsettling, disturbing, and a proverbial sleep thief. It can burden our mind and our heart, and drain us of initiative, energy, excitement, vision, optimism, and all the other things necessary to enrich humanity (including you).

"Scary" is taking a risk, starting something new, branching out, learning, exposing oneself to new ideas, new approaches, new perspectives, new people, new places, new jobs, and eating something you might not like.

It's all that stuff rolled up into a fajita that tastes like, well, you don't know until you try.

Now before you blast me out of the blogosphere (that's a thing), let me defend my position a little. 

Not everything needs to be tried to know it's stupid or harmful. Therefore, please exercise uncommon sense, use your brain, and ask people that are more experienced than you for some pointers. Many, many, many problems can be avoided by a well-placed, well-received piece of advice.

So if we're not supposed to try everything once, how do we tell the difference between good and bad "scary?" When is it beneficial to scare ourselves?

I'll give you my own experience and see if you can relate.

The kind of scary I like to try is one that pushes me to be better. It has some pros attached to it (and some cons--always). It has a prize at the end that is worth the risk.

Twenty fifteen has offered me some "scary" for breakfast. I could have chosen to skip breakfast and let my stomach eat itself at 10:15 am, or I could have chosen to eat the unknown scariness to obtain any and all of its nutritional value.

Scary is nutritious for the soul. It's sorta like vegetables. It's not always the most comfortable or best tasting thing to chew on, but it often provides you the greatest benefit. 

Should you eat vegetables for breakfast? That's a personal decision. I like Cheerios.

What do I choose--scary or comfortable?

Rhetorical, right? Because I wouldn't be writing a blog to tell you to try scary stuff if I wasn't trying some scary stuff. I'm glad you're one step ahead.

I started a second job doing something I've NEVER done before. Check.

I accepted a position in my church that is completely new to me. It has responsibilities that I have not previously undertaken. Check.

My wife and I agreed on financial decisions that are based on unknown events in the future. Check. (But really, aren't all financial decisions based on the unknown! Money is never guaranteed.)

There are days when the scary is unsettling. But every few weeks or month I look back to see all the growth that has occurred as a result. I see how it's pushing me to be better, to step out in faith (to use some Christian lingo), and to stop cowering in the face of the unknown.

I am not special. I have 46 chromosomes, just like you. My heart has four chambers, just like you. I have to sleep, just like you. We're not so different.

So if it's good for me, it's probably good for you.

But if it blows up in your face, I'm not legally responsible because this is just a blog. 

It wouldn't be scary if nothing could go wrong. 

I'm not offering you a "path to success." 

I'm proposing that you change your mentality toward the possibility of success AND failure.

Failure is an opportunity to learn and try again, not to quit and rationalize why you'll never again try something scary.

So tomorrow, have some scary for breakfast.

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